Trying my best....

[kiro]

Chaz, thanks for posting here. You’ll find great people and get great advice.

Your story seems very familiar. Many here will relate. Stay strong and keep a positive outlook.

Make sure you take care of yourself and then your kids before anything else. Take care of your work, your health, your financials, your social life, etc. as much as you can.

I’m not going to lie: your MR is not in a good place right now. From what you’re saying, it looks like she has checked out already and determined to separate. Do the readings suggested by Cadet and Job. They’ll open your eyes.

But be ready to accept that your M may (will) be over at least for now. You can only control yourself, which is an important realization in life. It may make you sad, knowing that you cannot control others, but it is a truth that will make you stronger and wiser.

Whatever you do (soul searching, C, etc.) is for you. Use the energy you have now to become a better person. Don’t do it to get her back b/c she’ll do what she wants regardless.

Stay strong. There is always light at the end. Good luck