How's the gym and diet coming. I hope you are taking care of your body.
Sorry about the OM. I've been there done that. Don't reveal what you know, don't reveal how you know, just that you do know. That's the best way to handle a confrontation. And confrontations are not advised usually because they end up making the LBS look weak.
In one sentence you said you would stay in limbo for years, and in the two or three sentences later and you don't care anymore. It sounds like you're very confused and hurt. That is OK.
Learn how to resist your feelings, and let your brain direct you instead. If she R talks, you validate. Don't contribute. I bet she was trying to buy some time/more spending funds by initiating this R talk.
STOP PURSUING.
You need to get out a GAL. She wants a divorce, that means she'll have the kids half the time and you'll be free to do as you please while she watches them. Make the best of that time. Or take the kids along for some GAL.
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Anxiety already kicking in to see how she reacts to the sites I asked her to check out.
I'm going to spare you the anxiety. She isn't going to do a thing about those.
If you want her to ask you about saving the marriage go to the gym 5 days a week, eat well, GAL, dress well and groom well, stop pursuing her, stop inputting your feelings into convos, learn how to listen and validate. Basically do everything that women are attracted to and do your best to heal from this and move on. Read R2C's links on attraction.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
