Divorce because I betrayed her trust - PART 6

[DaB35]

Thanks Steve - I value your input.

In a weird way, I am looking forward to being able to be the best version of me in front of her when that time comes. We need to decide who gets the minor items in the house anyway (kitchen bits, bedding etc. - the not too valuable stuff). We agreed to do that later after sale.

Knowing that my IC has wrapped in 6 months, and that I've started a gym routine and seeing the benefits (both physically and mentally) after just 2 months has massively helped my DBing.

I feel happy that I've progressed as a person so much. Glad that I've found time to do lots of things I never did before (e.g. go to London alone all day to watch a show just because I want to see it) and have been braver in social situations (forcing myself to speak to new people at gigs for example).

My IC said I was "an amazing client to work with" as I "jumped into therapy and took it very seriously." That was a nice boost too. Made it all worth it.

Of course I miss her, but I know she's thrown this away because of pride and because she is a massive people pleaser - she told everyone within a few days of discovery, and she doesn't like going against what others tell her to do (especially her family and close friends). My family are upset at this because they feel she should have just contacted them and kept it between us and then we could have sorted things out together as a small group. The fact that my therapy only lasted 6 months and not years suggests we could have done this.

I just responded to W as above. Keeping it business-like as per everyone's advice. I've found I'm not worrying about attempting to mind-read her thoughts anymore.