WASs will almost always gaslight you when confronted. That is why we say avoid R talks like the plague, and only listen and validate if you get caught in one. And make an escape as soon as you can.
Core, you seem impulsive. Impulsiveness will kill you. Likely you engaged with her in the R talk because you still feel you can say just the right thing to convince her. Or if you defend yourself she will see the light. You can't. She won't.
The bigger problem is why you are around her too much. I'll repeat: the LBSs that struggle the most do GAL the worst.
GAL like a madman. You'll look back later and realize that it was the best thing you can do.
That was intense gaslighting last night. She told me I can send her some promarriage links though it won't change anything so I did. Haven't seen an outcome or reaction yet. I am definitely impulsive, I used to think women found it attractive and built on it. Now I know its mostly anxiety. U, to answer your question, my anxiety is through the roof.
I agree, I'm around her too much, that's where I'm stuck/trapped. She rarely goes out, so if I want daily time with the kids and dont want to leave all household burdens on her, I end up being around her. In her eyes though if I'm not around, there isn't much to miss anyway.
Anxiety already kicking in to see how she reacts to the sites I asked her to check out. Which hopefully is my last DB mistake.
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated
