A year on and standing

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This morning, she was asking me again how do I think of the draft papers? Why do I think it's too simple? I told her it's because it just seems to be a summary of all the items we agreed upon. Then she mentioned her lawyer advised her to keep it that way so everything would not be stone cast and in the event shall there be any changes, we can still further negotiate.

Then I told her fine, just send the official version to my lawyer. If there are any concerns or queries I'll get him to amend. Which again she told me that well this draft will be as good as the official version. Then I told her I'm ok. Just that I find the reason of divorce put forth could be better if it's adultery than irreconcilable difference.

Then she asked me what I meant by adultery. There wasn't such thing. I reminded her. This whole sitch started off with her EA and nonsense and she is telling me there ain't such thing? I am keeping it amicable does not mean there is no closure for me and she can run away from facing it.

I told her when we come to this stage, we have to face what has happened and be responsible for the facts. Not to sugarcoat it and deny of what happened. I also told her that shall one day, if the kids going to ask the reason, I will give them the truth.

Then she asked me if that day comes, can I allow her to be the one to break it to them and I'll fill in the blanks she left out? She feel it will be easier that way. I told her I understand why she will feel it that way but I do not think this situation is easy for anyone especially the kids that have it toughest.

Seriously for the WW.... They screw it up, then they make you the villain to justify themselves and now they thought they are getting away unscathed....