Is there hope?

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Ok plan time...feedback is wanted and appreciated. I told W I questioned why she wanted a phone and advised where I saw her ask about phones so she may now know how I know shes still having and EA (multiple account on social media one following OM) so they may go deeper. With how defensive she was, she is definitely pursuing OM.

I continue to take MBR
Continue to 180
Continue to work out, read, talk to friends, go to church and meet family for coffee
Continue to focus on kids at home
Unknown...xmas is in the air, my family doesnt want her over
Continue counseling for anxiety, OCD
Reassess where i am in two months time after standing for marriage for 4 months
If there is no improvement or so long as there are no financial hits from W before then, I ask her to initiate mediation so I keep my moral boundaries intact
I stop selling personal belongings for family income
Cancel services I dont want to pay for anymore
Move direct deposit to my personal account
Stop initiating any chats with W
If she initiates, I act pleasant, confident but dont dig for detail
No snooping, I already know the answer and how I will feel when finding "answers"
Pray for myself and the kids to have a positive outcome
Work on not rushing to conclusions, W did not buy a phone and is now aware I am suspicious of her, though her reaction proved why I had suspicions
Understand I'm not the victim, nor fully to blame. She is responsible for being unfaithful to me and her god
Continue occasional family nights so the kids can have resemblance of security for as long as possible.
Do not let hate replace the former love in my heart
No more tears for this W, only for what was lost, for the kids, for my dreams
Read rest of DR. I've nowhere to hide it so stuck reading in libraries
Walk tall, exude confidence, validate, come here or to a friend when anxiety takes over

Sound good? What else? There is no kicking of either party out of the house. Just no way about it. I have to face the sin and facade daily. It'll just make me stronger and the kids will have stability, healthier food and a safe home.