I have no plan, ...Or am i supposed to let this EA continue for weeks, months, years until she makes a move?
You need to come up with a plan. The plan should revolve around you. How you behave. How you interact with her. What you will and will not tolerate. Setting and enforcing boundaries.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712