The first thing I want to say is I am so sorry you are going through this right now.
Right not you are operating under what is known as the "illusion of action". You think that if you preform the correct act, relationship talk, pursuing, gifts, letters that she is going to realize how much you love her and end her affair and come running back to you and beg for forgiveness. It doesn't work that way. It's also common for a new LBS to dig around in old threads and look for excuses to try other things when what they are doing isn't perceived to be working.
Just browsing through your posts I can see that you are a control freak and this feeling of helplessness is making you spin out of control. You need to try to keep your mind of your sitch as best as you can. Excercisie, visit friends and family. Unfortunately there is no quick way out. Stay strong!
