I couldn't cope if she was with someone new. I'm having a hard enough time being at family house with kids this morning, she went out last night for friends birthday, know she went to a club, received message at 3.30am "I'm staying at ***'s ( new friend) please don't worry, hope the kids are fine" So my imagination is doing loops. Tough week interspersed with glimmers of increased trust, being at family home, family therapy etc and somehow being more exposed to her wishes to be seperated and never reconcile.
I don't really know how to handle all this, some big realizations around how she was trying to communicate for ages what she needed to feel loved, and my reacting as if she was criticising or attacking me. She must have been so frustrated and lonely. Heartbroken I can't turn the clock back and wake that guy up.
Torn between wanting to share this realization with her , maybe at family therapy while it's still just the 2 of us attending.
Part of my abuse change programme involves several letters to wife as well.
