Triple, I agree with you about OM. I too have no anger toward OM. I accept some of the blame since I did not listen when my W first told me she was unhappy and I'm paying the consequences of my actions.
I have no respect for OM nor my W. OM can not have much respect for his W or himself and my wife has no Respect for me.
However they made the choices to do what they have done and now they have to live with themselves. I feel sorry for them. I don't know if I could live with that much guilt.
