... Stated she had been thinking again about a living option that she had suggested very early on after bd about buying a house together and seperating it into 2 living areas as we were seperated but to benefit the kids.
Said she knew of people who had done this,
I just listened
She then reiterated that she did not want me to think she was leading me on. That she knew I wasn't there yet but we would have to have private lives and that there would be the possibility of other partners.
I replied , I'm taking one day at a time, let's leave it on the table as an option and see how things go. Let's concentrate on Christmas first.
She agreed , but was looking at properties on her phone, 10 mins later she raised it again, talking as she was thinking through things.
She raised again if we did it we would need to accept each other's privacy as adults. That she didn't want to be celibate for the rest of her life.
I said "me neither, I have to put one foot in front of the other and focus on working on myself for whatever the future holds, that includes whether I'm in a new relationship or not. That I didn't know what the future held. Again I reiterated let's not make any decisions now, let's concentrate on Christmas first and maybe discuss this stuff in the new year. ...
Originally Posted by Jdevast
... What are peoples thoughts on earlier post regarding her living arrangements suggestion?
It's tough... she's fantasizing and there's nothing you can do. Anything you say will seem like you are controlling her. Let her look at properties online. You don't have to help her.
I also see it as a positive that she's very focused on the kids, which is better than most WAS here.
You have the benefit of time, so focus on improving yourself, be a good father, and maybe she will see and change her mind.
