So I guess " curveball " is the Americanism W came down to the kitchen this morning while I was making breakfast tea.
Stated she had been thinking again about a living option that she had suggested very early on after bd about buying a house together and seperating it into 2 living areas as we were seperated but to benefit the kids.
Said she knew of people who had done this,
I just listened
She then reiterated that she did not want me to think she was leading me on. That she knew I wasn't there yet but we would have to have private lives and that there would be the possibility of other partners.
I replied , I'm taking one day at a time, let's leave it on the table as an option and see how things go. Let's concentrate on Christmas first.
She agreed , but was looking at properties on her phone, 10 mins later she raised it again, talking as she was thinking through things.
She raised again if we did it we would need to accept each other's privacy as adults. That she didn't want to be celibate for the rest of her life.
I said "me neither, I have to put one foot in front of the other and focus on working on myself for whatever the future holds, that includes whether I'm in a new relationship or not. That I didn't know what the future held. Again I reiterated let's not make any decisions now, let's concentrate on Christmas first and maybe discuss this stuff in the new year.
Not sure how well I handled this, but I'm not going to leap and bite her hand off. It seems like a massive softening on one hand, although I know she is primarily thinking of the kids Have to be careful of her cake eating. And at same time, last time she proposed this she backtracked very quickly the next day saying it was a crazy idea.
So fully expect walls to come straight back up soon
