What do you mean by concrete? Like specifics of what I will be doing for GAL, 180, tough love, detach?
Yes. The details matter. So many people stay in the abstract concepts. Posters need to be in the details.
I know you are reading like crazy here. I check who is online and I see you reading good threads.
Yes, I do read like crazy... sometime I get caught up in a sitch from like 2008 - 2010 that spans like 5 threads, and I'm up till 5 am reading :P
Okay... let's give concrete a shot...
GAL - Mondays - gym after work - Tuesday / Thursday - basketball - Wednesdays - still figuring it out - maybe indoor bike trainer or chores at home. also looking into some volunteer such as tutoring, local food bank, or find classes to learn how to cook - Friday / Saturday - same as before, hangout with friends, go out dancing if there's a good show in town... until there's snow on the hills, then I'll be snowboarding - Sunday - football / golf / biking / snowboard (depending on season), house chores
I found that partying with friends doesn't actually make me feel any better after though - it's a good distraction but I don't grow from it. Would like to meet some new friends, so hoping volunteering or cooking classes could help with that.
Reading and researching some the recommended books and learning actually makes me feel better. I'm a very logical person, so I find that the research helps me make sense of the sitch and why / how we are here, and the data and pattern makes it less personal, so I don't feel like WW is the single worst person in the world doing this to me specifically.
180 - No more angry outbursts - No more childish possessive behavior - Keep the home tidy - Stop hoarding, donate unused stuff - Put a little more effort into my appearance, I'm in good physical shape but I get away with dressing too casual working in tech - Read more books - prior to this, I never really read that much - Cut back on drinking and smoking (next year, after my trip)
Tough love - No contacting WW - Be neutral when interacting with WW (earlier, I mistakenly took "tough love" as being cold) - Be independent and confident
Detach - Be okay with any outcome - Stop trying to "win"
