Friends: Season 3--Expanding and thriving

[Livnlearn]

No matter what she did, or does, without H's consent, the A would not have occured. By having ANY emotions at all about OW, I am really wasting time, and energy. This was a very difficult 'growing-up' moment for me. So, today, I keep trying to have NO feelings about OW, not anger, certainly not the need to forgive her. In her words to me, she is a consenting adult, and therefore is capable of figuring out her rights and wrongs. I want no relationship with her, in reality, in my mind or my heart.

Slowly, I think you are right there. Neither hatred, nor forgiveness, just nothing. Excellent!

I think I would only ever think about 'forgiving' OW no.1 (my ex friend) if she were to come to me with a genuine apology, but I don't see that happening any time soon. Anyone heard of that happening? Otherwise, better not to WASTE energy and time on even thinking about her.

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