Thanksgiving we spent with my family , had a great time . I did spend a night at his sisters over holiday . I kept my distance . Hello and goodbye. H went to a family birthday party . I declined and went to visit my sister . Clearly noticed by his family I will not just be the way I was . The line was drawn and I’m not going back .
Few sessions of marriage counseling. Nothing really to report there . Basically he made a lot of mistakes and admitted them . I’m terrible at admitting when I’m wrong but what I’m trying is to stick to my 180s. H has made some random last minute plans with the guys here or there . I used to give him a lot of grief . Now I say ok have a great time . It seems to help . H gives me a lot of good feedback when he feels free to spend some guy time with no pressure. It’s helped me be able to do what I like too without feeling guilty like I used too .
H has been noticing many things he took for granted and pointing them out . Like his blinders are lifted . Sometimes he will say I can’t believe you do all that and I didn’t notice . H is planning more dates and trying to spend time with me . He really can be just a sweetheart most of the time .
A few bumps with his mood . Stress that he wasn’t feeling well . I DB the crap out of him for a day or two . He apologized and said he was sorry for being moody and cold .
