Hi Betsey - Just wondering, does Mr W know just how many people here are holding our collective breaths for his reply I'm continuing to include you in my prayers for strength.

And now to jump into the OP pool. What I think and feel about OW is such a tough one. While I would like to hate her, it was clear to me that it was my H who had decided to pursue this relationship. No matter what she did, or does, without H's consent, the A would not have occured. By having ANY emotions at all about OW, I am really wasting time, and energy. This was a very difficult 'growing-up' moment for me. So, today, I keep trying to have NO feelings about OW, not anger, certainly not the need to forgive her. In her words to me, she is a consenting adult, and therefore is capable of figuring out her rights and wrongs. I want no relationship with her, in reality, in my mind or my heart.

Just my take on this. Slowly

A Liberal Allowance of Time