you know, i was just gonna let this go, but i said, no, i have to come back here and say something
betsey told me i was on a roll today, so here goes
as most people know here I WAS A WALK AWAY WIFE - with my first husband - yup, i upped and walked away from my first marriage - hook line and sinker - had an affair and everything (he was single tho)
was i hurting? damn straight i was hurting - in fact i was classic - you read all the things that michelle says causes walk aways, i was it all
i look back at that period of my life and i cannot believe i was even that person. i cannot believe i was so selfish with my own feelings that i didn't stop to consider the thoughts of my husband. i cannot believe that i would have committed ADULTERY and messed the life of the human being i promised to love, honor and obey 11 years earlier
until you are EVER in that situation - you cannot possibly know how it feels to be the walkaway - you cannot possibly begin to understand the remourse, the regret, the unforgiveable attitude you have with yourself - and the reasons you feel you were justified in doing what you did
cause remember, those feelings are REAL - you don't just wake up one day and say, hey, i think i am gonna make such and such person miserable today by having an affair and then walking out on them
so you (and i) have to LET GO of the anger, let go of the resentment and let go of the bitterness - with the op and the mate - because until you walk a mile in their shoes, you have no right to say whether you would do or not do the same thing given the same circumstances in your life
i am NOT pointing fingers at anyone here - i am passionate about this yes, because i have been on both sides of this fence, so i know what both sides feel like
and let me tell you - the guilt is worse...
sorry, i just had to add my two cents ... actually, no, i am not sorry, i felt it was needed - i am sorry tho that i didn't handle it more delicately
