S19 wants to buy a beater car to learn how to work on them. WAH took this up a notch to flipping cars. I don't agree with this (the flipping part) but it's not up to me so I'm trying to stay out of it. They've found this car that needs major repairs so this went from learning basic skills to an overhaul. S19 is expressing the same concerns I have that WAH won't have time. This another one of those things if WAH isn't reigned in on he takes on way more than he should. He over promises and under delivers. I kept him grounded and now he's on his own.
I'm validating S19's feelings while doing my best to stay out of this. He says he will ask WAH how much time he has and inside I'm cringing.
Kas you are spinning worst possible outcomes to situations again. How about this possibility- H and S buy a beater car. H finds a newfound focus helping S with the car, the more he helps the happier it makes him and the more he wants to help. They spend months fixing it up and forge a stronger relationship in the process. At the end of it they create something really cool together and sell it for a tidy profit and decide to do it again.
You simply don't know how it's going to turn out, so why assume the worst? Why don't you try assuming the BEST in all of these situations? See if that doesn't help give you a PMA, which you sorely need! H wants to work on a beater with S? FANTASTIC!!! That is GREAT news! Encourage your S do do this, don't throw your typical wet blanket on it.
Worst case scenario, H can't find the time and S builds the car himself. This is EXACTLY what happened to me. I bought an old car, my dad made a lot of bold promises to help me with it, in the end he didn't give me two seconds. I did it all myself, and I did it when there was no Internet to look everything up. I made new friends, I had a car I was d@mned proud of for many years, and it became a lifelong hobby and passion.
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