Thank you, it sounds like the feelings for the most part that my H is having for her are in line with what you felt. It is a very scary feeling that he doesn't even want to stay for the kids and that he is ok with only seeing them one day a week and every other weekend, because he has no desire to work anything out, and feels divorce or just co parenting well he sees her after his "6 month break" from her (i said he could stay in the basement if he takes a 6 month break from her including no talking at work) are a better option for him. Right now I just pray (well being realistic that he probably isn't) that he doing what he says and will start to see his family as the better option. In the meantime I just am telling myself the way he is acting and his attitude are not the man I need nor what the kids need and we can be happy again.
Has anyone elses H or W went from saying they could never picture not seeing their kids every day to saying it will be fine and that's how a lot of families are and I'm (He) is ok with it, because they fell life will be better with the OP so they will make up for the lose
