I made a committment to myself that I need to be the best man I can be while also showing how good of a husband I can be, without making it appear as pursuing. I know its breaking many DB rules and its conflicting with so much of the advice you've given me in support. I have one shot and it has to be right. Without over sharing personal details, my wife had a hard life before me. I didnt know everything but I learned way more in the past few months. She needed someone to lift her up and give her a great life. I tore her down with my anxiety, neglect, invalidating feelings and need to often be right. At this time I'm dying on the inside, hurting seeing her invalidate 11 years of history , 8-9 together and 5 in marriage but moreso seeing how much I've hurt her. I broke another rule and asked her to talk.
Last edited by Cadet; 01/13/2006:15 PM. Reason: changed as per poster
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated
