The last straw

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Well I have been away for some time from the board regarding posting and working in DBing. Joined the gym and working on trust issues w the wife.

Then came thanksgiving....and the headway I was thinking was taking place definitely not taking hold. W informed me of why she wasn’t going to my family gathering as we have for 30+yrs but instead to her sisters house. I was disappointed but agreed she should go. The reasons she gave were not what I expected:

First, my mother called and introduced herself as W’s ex Mil. Although she fought herself before finishing saying it, the damage was done. I questioned my mom why she would have said such and she said it just slipped out.

Second. My Bro told his S about the pending D inAugust and he told his M, an Ex who my W met for dinner the same week and was informed of the D before she had time to mention it.

End result..she went to her S house. Saw her for 3 min on thanksgiving to wish her a good day.

Saw her for 2 min on Black Friday prior to her leaving for the rest of the w/e to spend time w her S at their beach house. Texted her Friday to make sure she made it and no communication after that until she returned Sunday afternoon. We all watched football the rest of the eve with min conv but everything was okay.

THEN CAME MONDAY MORNING

I was leaving for work and she stopped me saying she had to talk to me...to say “ I can’t live here under these conditions any longer....then handed me paperwork to sign “ so she can buy a beach house and move on.

There is a lot in this doc regarding pending an absolute D and stating we have been separated since Sept 2016.

She disclosed she has put away $250k over a period of time and now know she is trying to protect this money to buy the house...in addition to expecting 50% of what we own.

Furthermore, she says I have 5 days to sign or her L will drag me into court.....

So the past 2 days I have been a wreck emotionally but today has been better. I realize I am getting played and now am wondering how this may work out. Have an appt next week w L and have been strategizing on how to proceed.

What a f#$&@ mess. All while I was hoping we were making baby steps in the right direction.

Any vets want to add 2 cents to this disaster would be greatly appreciated

Zip