kas, did you file for D because you want to be D'd? Or did you do it to try to wake him up?
It's financial and he will go through with it. He wants a D he just doesn't want to pay for it.
I don't want to D but I live in a true fault state. Without grounds (adultery) he doesn't have to give me a divorce until he wants to and doesn't have to pay me without one. I have to go through with it now.
Not sure you answered my question. We typically tell LBSs not to file for divorce until they are ready to be D'd. Any other reason will usually backfire. Obviously there are legal considerations but I highly suggest not taking action based on legal considerations unless you are engaging with a lawyer.
Lots of LBSs use filing as a way to wake up a WAS. Or they do it out of anger or hurt. The first is manipulation. The second is the illusion of action. Both will end up with you being D'd, many times before the LBS was really ready.
The illusion of action is the belief that action, any action, will make the anger or hurt go away. It rarely does. Filing out of anger or hurt results in being D'd and still angry and hurt.
Did you consult a lawyer first?
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