Can’t I just tell her to snap out of it and appreciate the life she has? I can’t hardly take it any more.
My name is Scott and I’ve been divorce busting of some sort for three years coming off my wife’s emotional affair. We have two young kids 11 and 9. We’ve been in counseling for 3 years now, since the affair. We’re on our second counselor. From an outsiders view it would look like a fairy tale. As an insider the truth is things seem wonderful nearly all of the time but my wife just doesn’t seem to want to appreciate the truth of what she has.
Over the years as she has brought up complaints and issues I’ve worked to change and she would agree that i have but then it’s on to the next “major issue” in our relationship.
A consistent one is that i don’t “get” her or that we don’t have an emotional connection. Now this seems to be the target, that I need to feel more and share my feelings to improve communication.
We stopped being physically intimidate 4 months ago, the last time she threatened separation and divorce. She says she doesn’t want to work on the marriage but she hasn’t left and she still goes to counseling (where she told the counselor she didn’t want to work on the marriage).
I just want to shake her and tell her to get it together. Work on the marriage and embrace the beautiful family and life she has!
