Thank you for some insight from the other side it is helpful. It does seem like every time he tried to break it off it started right back up within a day or 2 back at work and he started pursuing her even more, the more she says she is backing off for him to figure out what he wants, which makes him want her more and why I am almost sure he is continuing things at work even though he said this time he was going to try to take a break. I think all of it just fuels his fantasy even more and makes it seem even more that he is "in love" in his mind and she is perfect. Part of me almost just wants to say go ahead and pursue a relationship with her in the hope he would see that see is not perfect, but I know that would not be the case
