To be clear I had to file. He moved out and until the lease was up he was paying all my bills. I was forced to get my own place 2 months ago and the verbal agreement was he would pay me more. He did not. Previously I let him talk me out of a temporary support agreement hearing so now I was stuck. No court orders = doesn't have to pay. I was in the middle of trying to figure out what to do about this when I found out about the OW. Decided to go ahead and file to protect myself financially. It could take years to finalize the actual divorce.
