My situation is different because my H moved out and I didn't find out about the OW until recently. I don't know who she is but I suspect she is someone he works with as well. I ended up filing for D a couple of weeks ago for financial reasons and because I'm not okay with him cake eating. He doesn't get to have a girlfriend while I am plan B in case things don't work out with her. I think it's serious now because he went from saying he needed time to he's done.
Took me 8 months to get to this place though. If it makes you feel better I don't think my WAH is happy. He's drinking heavily, has to work a 2nd job to pay CS (I'm about to hit him with alimony as well) and his new life, one kid disowned him, one barely talks to him, and the other sees him maybe 1 day a week in pieces. My kids (almost adults) say his pride and ego are at stake now. He is too far gone to turn back now (he doesn't know they know about the OW) I still have hope but its likely to take years before he comes out of this fog. I figure we can always reconcile later so I'm good.
