Let’s develop a plan first. You’re very inconsistent with your actions.
Ok well I've started with the following.
1. No contact unless it is about the kids 2. She doesn't sleep in the MB 3. When I get home no communication unless it is about the kids. I told her i will not live in an open relationship and we have no relationship as long as she is in contact with the OM. (She didn't disagree) 4. Get my own checking account. Leave it up to her to cancel credit cards and split the bills 5. Take my phone off of her Mobile account. Create my own. 6. I've already retained a lawyer 7. Plan on staying away from her family even though they have been highly supportive if me. To the point that she doesn't speak to her father anymore.
Am I missing some things here. Any ideas to help with detaching.
