As for your D17. You going to your support group is not going to change how she feels about herself. What will affect her is a role model who gets the help she needs, shows confidence and capability and doing what she needs to do to make herself a happy healthy person.
You sitting at home with her wallowing isn’t going to make anything any better.
Take your D17 with you to volunteer . It’s a positive experience that will. Make her feel good about herself.
Don’t use excuses
Ginger your posts make me cry. I'm not trying to make excuses I'm simply explaining. I can't yet make the leap from getting a handle on basic tasks to volunteering. It's too big of a jump and it's overwhelming. I need smaller goals like cooking dinner and getting caught up at work. I have not wallowed (at home) since Friday. The only complaint I've gotten out of the kids since Friday is me not being considerate about where I park my car. It's a valid point and I will correct this. They call me out anytime I'm not behaving like an adult so I'm constantly reminded.
I was doing better until I moved and found out about the OW (3 weeks ago).
Sometimes hearing things we don't want to hear is necessary. Your emotions over those things can't be helped. Ginger is giving you great feedback and advice. Don't let the fact that it hurts deter you from heeding it and considering it.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
