I wanted to respond to your query to me on H2H's thread. (And you didn't upset me - I don't know that I want to hear that yet - but it didn't upset me).
Anyway - you asked if I thought it possible that maybe this sitch is God/karma way of getting us out of a sitch that isn't right for us. That maybe our S has changed so much (values/beliefs etc.) that we wouldn't want to be with them in the end. {I'm paraphrasing here very poorly - my writing skills are not as well developed as yours}
Anyway - I do believe that is true! In fact when P decided that she wanted the chance to "explore" this new R with the OW instead of "working things out" with me. She said that she needed to work on herself and maybe I wouldn't even like her when she was done. I see how it might be possible that she comes out so changed that I won't care to be with her anymore once it's done. I'm having a hard time imagining that being possible - but theoretically I understand.
However, if that's the case - why are we DBin? Why not just "move on" as all of our friends suggest. And as they tell me - if it's meant to be it will come back to you in the end. Now that's really leaving it up to karma/fate/god. But isn't it our duty to do everything possible in our power to save this R? I guess I'm confused about the difference!
