I too, dealt with lying towards the end of my M. I HATED it and would go absolutely ballistic when I disocvered H in a lie! It was usually about stupid things too!
Now I look back and think..."poor thing, no wonder he lied...who wants to deal with my wrath??"! LOL!
He had conflict avoidance behaviors and I had crazy making behaviors, just like the rest of you! Thanks for helping me see things so clearly...it really is a pattern.
I know others have noticed H's lying and I feel almost sorry for him, becuase I don't think his words are valued by others. I now know that is a lesson he has to learn for himself ~ it is not a lesson that I or anyone else, can teach him!
I also feel I have been set free. Our D is almost final and I no longer have to worry about discerning lies from truth. I do wish I knew WHY he lies. I'm not sure he even knows he is doing it anymore!
UD ~ I LOVE the 24 hour rule ~ it works well for work situations too!
Happy Mother's Day to all!!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
