Is there hope?

[Core]

At this point, I've probably told 11 people part of whats going on. Didn't even realize how many I've supported on. That's not including whoever my W has told. I hope if there is any reconciliation, that doesn't kill the chance. As per the advice in one of the previous posts, I'm turning just to this forum and 1 or 2 close contacts going forward.

I still have no plan on how to confront the W and remind her she can leave. If the kids were older or she had a job it would be so much easier. I don't even know I truly want her to leave. She is still buying my family xmas gifts, cooking for me, doing laundry, etc. So confusing.

In my last post, I should correct that I don't know for sure OM contacted wife but she did receive am email to text very late at night.