I don’t m ow if I have the popular opinion here, but why the heck would you invite her to your company Christmas party? She insults you, she’s me a, and she even insulted your opportunity at this new job. She’s someone you want to bring in front of these people at your new job where you feel great? She wants a divorce and you invite her as your date?
Why? What was your point in that? You are rewarding bad behavior.
Please, if she steps out of line and goes into her usual biotch mode while she is there, please don’t tolerate it.
This. If she starts being disrespectful call her an Uber, then escort her out to it when it arrives.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I see. Thank you. I didn’t see my error until now. I will not tolerate any disrespect from her. No worries there
This is something I meant to tell you guys a week or so ago but I just plain forgot. W took a very good step for herself. She called her doctor and asked to be out back on antidepressants. She has been taking them for a week now and her attitude has greatly improved.
I’ve also picked up the guitar again. Reconnected with an old band mate and we are going to start jamming again! He is in a successful band so I’m going to attend his show this Saturday night.
I think I’m going to start attending a church with a new work friend. Not sure yet.
Awesome! Great GAL activities!
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Ps my company is throwing a high end Christmas party. I asked W if she would like to attend.
Is it my imagination or weren't you just parading around your newfound "100% detachment"? Rather than comment myself, let me just ask you, does this sound like something a person who is 100% detached would do?
That made me laugh out loud, I don't think I've ever heard anyone accuse the vets here of sugar-coating things
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If W said she wanted to work on things and recon. I would feel very skeptical. I’m unsure if I would want to. This makes me feel bad about myself. Is this normal?
Would a 100% detached person be bothered by that? No. What would a 100% detached person do? They wouldn't even ask themselves this question in the first place, because it's not on their radar. They would be 100% focused on their own life and leaving their WAS alone to do whatever they are going to do. Then down the road if their WAS approached them about recon, they would deal with it then. I get asked this question every once in a while (whether I would consider recon) and I always have to stop and think because I honestly give it zero thought in my daily life. Usually when I'm asked I respond with something like "I don't really think about it because I don't see it happening, but if it did I don't think I'd be interested, but who knows what the future holds."
Lol. Thanks guys. Maybe I’m still not understanding the difference between not caring and detachment. If she would have said no it wouldn’t have bothered me. I just thought it would be nice to extend an invite
As for the other thing. It just makes me feel like a bad person that I might not want to recon
I have told several times that this is a pro marriage site. So how does being detached jive with wanting it to work. Makes no sense to me. Cause I have been told that this is a website for people who want it to work. But then as soon as I express any sort of anything about W I’m told “see a detached person wouldn’t say that”. It seems like that your definition of detached is I just tell W to take a flying leap and never look back with 0 chance of recon
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