You do not want to be controlling. Kicking her out is controlling. Telling her "You are free to leave" is not controlling.

Hold off on taking immediate action. Come up with a plan. Run it past us for input. Revise. Run it past us. Repeat until you have a great plan. Execute the plan.


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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