The guys I’ve dated have had pretty decent sex drives.
Not really! Not one of them has been putting in the effort to get with you 2-3 times a week - and a young guy who's interested and has a decent drive SHOULD be feeling that way early in the relationship. At least he should be trying to talk you into meeting him for a quickie somewhere if your schedules are conflicting. None of them have been like that.
I'm not talking about the quality of the sex when you had it, but their desire being sufficiently high that they want to make every effort to get with you in bed as often as possible.
And mind you, I'm not sating everyone has the same drive. But you have YET to be with a guy who has wanted to have sex more often than you did. I think you'd be a lot happier with a guy who wanted it more.
