Is there hope?

[Core]

@R2C

I'm in WV which I believe gives 50/50 but varies depending on childs best interests. To your point, I may not want to think that far and have it manifest.

@Hoosjim

It sounds like you had a really good counselor and you did many things right in your situation. I understand the take on confronting, it probably won't solve anything and may drive them closer together. He's in another state but I do have his phone number. I was planning on talking to him about honor and respect but I have a feeling the guy has none based on his actions. My thought is confronting would ultimately make me feel better. I can see myself being on the fence with this one for awhile. Yours is an engaging story and I'm glad you shared it and happy to see how you and the R improved.

All,
This has been some solid advice. I've saved memos, put in calendar updates/reminders and am dedicating as much time as I can to improving. In Hoosjim's sitchs and others, kicking the WW/WAS out of the house seems to do wonders. I'd like to try it myself but I feel my hands are tied. 1 - she wants a D. This will give her what she wants. 2 - and the more important factor. I'd be kicking D4 and S1's mom and full time stay at home mom/baby sitter out of the house. If I kick her out, I'd either be kicking the kids out as well, or I'd damage the kids and I'd quickly be in for hurt and hard pressed to find a baby sitter. In my part of town, the waiting listing for daycare's are 5 months or longer. 3- the last possible option is kicking myself out and losing all I cherish, and potentially showing abandonment in the court of law. Thoughts on this? Again I appreciate the help. As much as I thought I detached and as I believe R2C mentioned, I went right back to attached and ruminated about this all day at work until you all showed up with support. I had a gift already to give W which I'm flipping over to D4 instead. Alpha. Focus. Self Improve. Thing the best. Detach. Put the kids first. Hold off on gifts. Read the links. Exercise. Eat well.