Quick update: D16 is back home. She is also back to work and so am i.
Her boyfriend is out of the picture and has left town with another girl. D16 was heartbroken. On July first, ( Canada day ), she snapped out of her despair after being approach by many, many people who D16 had pushed aside for her boyfriend. She realised that she had MANY PEOPLE who cared about her and were so happy she had left him.
That night, after we got home from the fireworks, she washed all the writings off her mirrors. She took a long bath and braided her hair. She was smilling again. From that day on, i had my funny, corky daughter back.
As for ex-h, he called me only once to see how she was doing.
He has seen her 3 times since.
First time, he took her shopping. He offered to buy her a winter jacket. She really liked one she had chosen but ex-h desagreed. He got her one of HIS choice. She did not like it but it did not matter, that is the one she got.
She texted him to ask if she could go and spend the week-end with him.. no answer.
A few days later, she texted him to ask when her data would be reset. No answer.
D 18 also texted him that same week and did not get an answer.
9 days later, D16 finally gets an answer. No apology, no explainations, nothing.
In the middle of the week, at 2h00pm, he tries to CALL D16. She was at school thetefor did not answer his call. He got pissed off.
Second visit: First thing he tells D16: " where is the jacket i got you? This one is ugly"
Her: " It' s inside. It is too mild to wear it." Him: ok... i' ll give you that. What about your new boots you got with your mom? Her: inside also. Him: (arrogant) why are you losing weight, are you sick or something?" Her: no
They get to the restaurant and it goes on.. Him: i think i' m gonna be sick it' s all old people here. Look at this one, she must be atleast 80.
The waitress knows ex-h and me. She had not seen him in years. She was happy to see him and says:" woww Nelson, you lost alot of weight"
He gets all insulted and replies: what? Do i look sick? D16 was embarrassed the whole night. Once she got home, she let it all out.. told me everything about it..
D18' s reading week. She spent a couple of days with her dad and the rest of the week with me. The first thing she told me was: Dad is in one of his mood.. easily irritable, angry, nasty, mean, unpleasable.
I said : he must be having trouble with his OW. She says: i think so to. She was going to work and as soon as she closed the door behind her, he said: this won' t last much longer.
Last week-end, D16 had a Volley-ball tournement. I gave her the choice of coming with me to North Bay or do her tournement with a promise of following the rules. She chose to stay.
Saturday night, she texted me that her dad wanted to pick her up at 1h00pm on Sunday to have supper with her. She added an angry smily face and a yay.
Sunday: 1h20 i receive another text from D16 who said... still waiting.. (angry face)
1h45... text: leaving now.. finally I asked her to let me know when she would make her way back home. ( i did not want to be there since he is in a high.)
5h00pm ...D16 texted me: Brooke ( an employee of mine ) is in town. She offered me to hop-in with her so dad would not have to drive me back and she would have companie for the ride back home.
5h30pm... Another text: Nevermind, dad won' t let me because it is dark outside..arrrrggggg... Me: Does he knows where i am? D16: yes.he interogated me as soon as i got in the truck. Me: was he mad? D16: not at you. He accused me of going partying, getting drunk, staying up all night .... ( she did not.. she was on line with us.she was home. Her and D18 were sending recorded videos back and forth.)
( i am getting the feeling that he is trying to see me)
I left North Bay at 4h00pm. 7h00pm: D16: still waiting for him.. 7h30: still not gone yet..
( he' s gonna time it with my arrival.. nope... not gonna happen )
Once in Matheson, i took a little break.. i drove around and looked at Christmas decorations. Waisted 20 minutes..
Once in my town, went straight to the bank.. updated my books. Got myself a coffee and finally went home.D16 was there. She had just arrived 10 min.before me. She said he made her inspect the entire house before leaving because she had not locked the door.
He looked at the tire tracks in my driveway.. he walked all around the house. He looked at all the footsteps in the yard.
I was expecting a phone call to answer to what he saw as their was 4 different tire tracks in my driveway. All known by me..lol
On Saturday evening, when D16' s texted came in, it started a ex-h discussions amoungst my kids. S21,D23 and D18. I stayed out of it because i get very angry and agitated when i get involved. D18 reported a text she had received out of the blue about his OW who would be in the street if he was to break it off as everything was under HIS name..
I did say my 2 cents on this one: yup..that is how he works. He has full control. But if he does leave her, he will give her the 4runner. But nothing else.
Today, 2 of his constables came to the store to grab lunch. As soon as i saw them, my anger was felt inside. One of them glanced at me twice. I walked away. My co-worker said: " did you notice the one that looked at you when you were in the isle? " Me: yes. I walked away.. Her: he came last week and stood infront of the freezer stairring in our department as if he was looking for you. Me: i don' t want to have nothing to do with any of them! Her: if he would have asked for you, i would have said that you had quit..lol Me: YESSSS!!! Thank you!! Lol
Christmas is coming. I have one gift left to purchase and some baking to do. D18 surprised me with a visit with her boyfriend. We decorated inside and outside. It will be a good year this year. Even with ex-h' s mood, everybody else seem in the spirit of Christmas!!
