I agree with R2C on setting measurable goals. A lot of people will set really generic goals, like "eat better and lose weight". What does it mean to "eat better"? I used to say that all the time and never followed through. Then I said "I am going to calculate my daily maintenance macros, then reduce those by 10% with a goal of losing 1 pound a week." Then I set up a phone app to track my daily macro intake, and only weighed once a week on Sunday morning and logged my weight. Suddenly I had real targets and goals and a firm plan on how to get there. A pound a week doesn't sound like much but my goal was to maintain muscle mass throughout which I did. And 3 months later I was 12 pounds down and very lean. So yes, making specific goals and plans for yourself make all the difference.
Originally Posted by kas99
I went last night can't you tell the difference in my tone? I've gotten a lot of work done today and my thoughts aren't killing me. I've had moments yes but I've been practicing my DBT skills. Today I kinda get that I'm going to have to put in effort to get better. That healing isn't going to happen via wishful thinking or by the passing of time. This will as ginger put it be the hardest think I ever do but I must do it.
DBT teaches basic mastery skills which sounds pretty cool right? Remember it's a trauma support group. Basic mastery is eating, showering, paying bills, going to work, etc. I have not mastered basic skills. Once I master basic skills I can get a hobby.
Fantastic! You've got some great actions going, now stick to them consistently until they become your "new normal".
