Literally ever person I've talked to in person says to ... Be the best husband possible. Give gifts
I have never seen that work when there is OM involved. It will be seen as weak and decrease your attraction.
Like I said, the rules have changed.
You have to be a strong, independent man. Facing your fear head on.
Go back to the link I first supplied. There are around 1000 quotes. Read them all. As you do, Ask yourself, do I agree with this? If you say "No", then you really dig deep and question your belief system. I also strongly suggest that you start a personal digital notebook to collect info you want to reference again in the future. Keeping the original posters name with the quote is useful as well. Try to categorize them from the beginning. Big topics like parenting. subtopic like telling the children etc
Pay close attention to the posters names. LH19, AnotherStander, Steve85 are currently posting great advise. Sandi2 has been here forever and she passes out stellar advise. Coach and PuppyDogTails both got their marriages back on track and helped many others do the same. We all should aspire to behaves as these two did. AllenA and RobX saved their marriages. They both did it in completely different ways. Understand the difference in how these four did it. Curtis7 did an excellent job spelling out all his options. It is in quotes9.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
