Affair fog,MLC or true love?

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Hi Alrose,

sorry you're here. Your sitch has a lot of similarities to others, but I'm sure some differences as well.

I want to say that while your husband might feel "in love" with this OW, what kind of love is that? He is married to you, kids with you, didn't leave you, I'm sure he lies to her about a lot. He is in a bad place, not sleeping well, not eating well, living in the basement but then living upstairs, make rash choices, involving coworkers...honey that is not "in love" or "true love" or any type of love.

I want you to read here and post here. Breathe, remain calm, and think everything through. I bet you're a good gal at heart, but your marriage hasn't been the best and now you're hear. Big whoop. You can make yourself better, I promise you that. And you are better and you do deserve better than this crap that is going on right now. Seriously.

So here's where you start:
1. "Don't believe anything he says and only half of what he does". This is your mantra.
2. No expectations.
3. Detach. His actions don't affect your mood. Take back your power.
4. Avoid the "Feel & React". I think this approach is what drives most situations from hopeful to hopeless. Nothing he says or does requires an immediate response so keep that in mind and learn how to validate and respond without inputting your opinion.
5. GAL

Oh and takes care of those kids! I bet they are a fun bunch!