Almost through all the material. Whats blocking me is everyone I've talked to in person says to kill her with kindness. Be the best husband and dad possible. Give gifts and repent. Compliment and build her confidence. I hear this from my counselor as well as someone who was on the brink of divorce themselves. That all seems to be from the heart and DB seems to be tactics. Do we have success stories around people whom did the opposite of some DB rules and pursued, etc? I know someone who met the OM in person and scared them away permanently.
One of the reasons I think W went wayward was the lack of attention, no spontaneity, kids came first. Shouldn't these be my 180s? I have the home court advantage. I see her in person daily, she can see I'm a great dad and I can beat the guy at his own game. I know its all against the DB rules but how do we know which path is better? A coworker I console in got a gift to give W. It feels like the right thing to do.
Lastly, should I confront OM? Anyone else survive this with kids as young as mine (D4, S1). I know being M and with known anxiety, I'll be lucky to get 50/50 custody.
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated
