I made him my whole life and now I'm not sure what to do now. I'm lost.
This is the crux of your entire problem. This kind of thing is not fair to you NOR to him. No wonder he cracked under the pressure. Marriages are about two healthy individuals coming together as a team. Not 1 or both making the other person their whole life. What if he were killed, or died somehow? Would you be paralyzed not able to move forward because he was your whole life?
Losing a spouse to an OW and getting D'd has been compared to losing a spouse to death. I am afraid that you would not be able to move forward if he were to die, and that is not a healthy place for anyone. The world we live in is an imperfect place. Setting your life up in such a way that the world needs to be perfect for you to thrive is not healthy.
Please heed Ginger's advice.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
