Affair fog,MLC or true love?

[alrose48]

I wish I found this group when the BDed 2 months ago because I have done all the don'ts (begging pleading crying threatening confronting her and telling others) and up until 2 days ago I was still begging and pleading. Here is our stitch H (37) me (34) together almost 15years M(12) 5 kids (10,8,6,5,3). We have had a rocky marriage throughout but I didn't see it as anything worse then other people. The last couple of months had gotten bad. Then H BD the first week of Oct that he is having an EA with a coworker that started in Sept. of this year. When he told me he also tried to break it off and we tried to work on things the for about 4 days and by Wednesday he felt his feels for her were too strong to fight and he went back to her, sneaking around before or after work. He has tried to break it off 5 or 6 times and everytime his feels get stronger. He says that they are in love and he has no feelings for me and that he has been thinking about leaving for awhile and she was his final way to get out. He also says the last 13 years have been more bad then good. He has tried to move in with her but she called their other coworker that helps talk them off the edge and he decided not to move out, but tried to live in our camper. Then I confronted him about her doing his laundry even though they are not seeing each other outside of work and he said he was done with me and wants a divorce. That day he realized he could not afford to move out right now and asked to stay in our basement, but me has no desire to work on us even though he sees through this I have started to make the changes he wanted before. He just wants to be with her because he believes life will be happier without me even if he is not seeing the kids every day (he says they will be fine and not suffer for long). So right now he says he is burned out, not sleeping and not really eating, so he is going to focus on being single and coparenting and not see her or call or text her and when he goes to work he will just work and have little interaction with her as possible (I dont really believe that). He said he would stay in the basement and only come up to use the bathroom or get something to eat, but he has been hanging out upstairs with us when he wants. The last 2 days I have been good and pleasant which is a Huge change for me. Last night it almost looked like he was going through a little bit of withdrawal from not being with her but it also could have been he was just tired.

Does this sound like I have any hope to save things? Could this be true love between them after only 2 months or does it sound like affair fog or a MLC? I am at a loss on what to do. I am going to get the DB book today. I feel like this is eating me alive.