I think for guys like you and me who usually have arranged things the way they like them in the areas important to them have a very hard time handling areas that are important to them over which they have no control. I think it's like fear of flying. Driving to the airport, people have the illusion that they are in control... (they control the car's direction, speed, turns, whatever, making them FEEL like they are in control, but they have absolutely no control over the guy next to them, or the tire blowing out, or the guy going the opposite direction sneezing and swerving into them.....), but when people are in their coach seat, and the weather turns rough, they KNOW they have no control and that freaks people out.
I suspect that's part of what's going on with you. That doesn't make it any better, but you have very little control over it, and you might as well accept it. Maybe that's bad advice. I don't know.....
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17