I am new here as well. Do the homework as stated above, focus on improving yourself and look for advice here as you are doing now. With the help of this board I have learned the importance of detachment not only for your own well being but also but also it's the best thing you can do to give your relationship a fighting chance. That's the fuel I use to keep me focused and on track.
As far as the sex thing goes I have been struggling with that as well....I had an opportunity for casual sex and I was going to take it because I said, good for the goose, good for the gander type thing. However when I was confiding in a friend he gave me some wonderful advice. He told me to flip a coin; heads - I have sex and Tails - I reject the sex. So we flipped a coin and it was Tails - reject the sex. My friend asked me how I felt now that the decision was made for me, I told him I was relieved! So obviously I was not ready to take that leap. Whatever you decide make sure you are ready and can live with your decision there is no going back after if you make the wrong decision.
Sorry you are here, I hope you weather her storm till the black clouds break.
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