She is toying with you. And OM. Not that that OM directly matters, but it does indirectly. She is flirting with you while in bed beside OM. Doesn’t believe in monogamy, etc...
She is looking for a thrill. That forbidden fruit - and you are now forbidden. She knows your buttons, and is pushing them.
Things with OM are obviously not the fantasy and all fulfilling as she imagined they would be. I see her comment “that hurts” as more of a challenge from her to herself; to get you to wanting her again.
Boundaries!
A phone call can cover off whatever she has to say. She has being “talking” to you by text for some time and hasn’t got to whatever it is she wanted to discuss regarding the kids. Get control of the conversations; you are getting pulled in.
I do understand the seeking of the workings of her hurting mind. However, you are not interested in a relationship with her; you are with someone else. So keep things cordial and to the point. Otherwise you could end up to be her EA on her PA.
I’m pretty sure this is stirring up some emotions in you. A perfectly normal response to be wanted again; it would feel pretty wonderful. (I imagine )
Catching up on the past 9 months. Offering her a ride in your car. Her pressing for information regarding your relationship, and if seats could talk. This is a slippery slope.
If you want a cordial relationship, for the kids, and coparenting; then keep to that. She can wonder all she wants and beg for a ride in your car. She gave up, threw away, that privilege a while ago.
Cat and mouse can’t be played if one of them ain’t there. And no disrespect, quite the opposite, you are not the cat in this game. She toying with you, and will pounce eventually.
DnJ
Preach it, Brother!
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
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