Hey Roo,

Sorry to hear about your car mate. What's wrong with it? Fixable?

Thanks for your thoughts on the link between XW and your mum(mom). It was an eye opener for me when my sister (who doesnt know my XW that well) told me one of her first impressions of my XW was that she was so much like my mum in not having empathy, and seeing things very black and white. In contrast, my mum was a self absorbed slothful woman, whereas XW was strong and independant, which was one of the main attractions for me. We shared mothers who emotionally abandoned us. Abandonment was the distilled energy we shared. That energy played out in my sitch.

Since BD, I've gone on a deep dive with childhood issues and how they subconsciously play out in the M and destroy things eventually.

Cheers, DS


Me: early 40's
XW: nearly 50
T: 15
M: 5
BD: Jan 19
S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24