Do you have a goal for the relationship to get better? Are there measurable positive signs?
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"He said he hopes he doesn’t make things worse.
Sounds like he has a goal of making things better.
Have you researched retrouvaille? My understanding this is a great tool for helping get R back on track.
I have many goals Ready2change and I’ve slowly been chipping away at them. I also have goals and hopes for a better relationship.
As far as signs, there are days when I see good signs and days when I feel like he intentionally pulls away.
So I would say that there are some positive signs but there are still some negatives as well.
I wasn’t sure what he meant by not wanting to make things worse. I asked him to clarify and he reminded me of a time when I came back from therapy and I snapped on him. I totally understood his point after that. I assured him that I wouldn’t lose my cool. I’ve definitely got to work on my anger and controlling my emotions more. I do very well but sometimes I let him press my buttons. Still working on that.
I have never heard for Retrouvaille, but I’ll be sure to look it up. Thanks!
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
