It's almost like they are just gone but have guilt over ending things, so they want to pin it on you.
This is definitely a part of it.
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It feels like 50 Shades of Done when they start disbelieving you moved on and started dating. Level 1 is the BD. Level 5 is when they announce they want the D. Level 8 is when they serve you papers. When you start dating, they apparently take it to yet another level!!! I was thinking "I thought we were done at Level 8?"