Did she serve you before or after you started dating? I can't tell from your post. I read a lot of these stories where a WS freaks out once they get a reality check, but it's still hard to get them to commit.
It looks like your wife is at least having doubts, but I would keep up with the DB stuff for now. I would ignore most of what she says, and operate under the assumption that she still wants a divorce. I mean, regardless of what she's telling you, the divorce process is still underway.
In any case, I think you should keep your wife in the dark about your dating life, especially if you decide to stop dating. I think if you stop dating and tell her, she's going to feel pursued, which is what you don't want.
