new jimmy here

[NewJimmy]

Together 10
Married 8
Bomb drop 2/19
Separated since 6/18
Papers started 9/19
Two kids 5 and 7, boys

I'm back after taking some time off and couldn't find my old thread or get into my account.

update

She sent papers my way in early september after 1.5yrs of me trying to make myself better and her not budging on meeting me in the middle to fix things. she still says there is no one else. After getting a life and being the best dad i could be and getting the papers I decided to get on match and pof to get out and date or a tleast see what was out there.

I was not hiding anything but wasn't advertising that I was going out on dates. She found out through a friend that I thought I could trust that I was "dating" and she went nuts. She told me for months that it was over..... WAY over and we would never be together again and I should move on. I did and she was not happy about it.

She then was saying after she learned I had gone out on dates that all she wanted in the year and a half was to see change in me and on and on and then 6 months after she told me to expect papers they were delivered September 2nd.

She can't believe i have moved on or in a emotional place to be with someone else. Even know if she was honest and wanted to go to a couples weekend Like the Gottmans offer and wanted to but in honest effort I still would.

thoughts? input?

thanks